When I’m depressed, I can’t think. I stand in the middle of my kitchen in despair, looking at all the mess around me, utterly overwhelmed, having no idea where to start. Of course, that also starts the story in my head of how crap I am, I can’t even tidy a kitchen, blah blah blah. […]
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Question it – is it true? Can you absolutely know it’s true? etc (Byron Katie – The Work) Question it – what cognitive distortion is at play here? Bookmark0
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There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will
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What happens when you begin to feel uneasy, unsettled, queasy? Notice the panic where you instantly grab for something. That grabbing is based on hope. Not grabbing is called hopelessness. So what does it mean to admit that we feel like a piece of shit and not be squeamish about it? That’s the compassionate thing
Instead of blaming our discomfort on outer circumstances or on our own weakness, we can choose to stay present and awake to our experience, not rejecting it, not grasping it, not buying the stories that we relentlessly tell ourselves. – Pema Chödrön I understand this now. It’s about staying out of our heads, and in
You are a function of what the whole universe is doing in the same way that a wave is a function of what the whole ocean is doing – Alan Wilson Watts so stop taking it all so personally!! 🙂 or expecting to understand each movement!! Bookmark0
“There is vitality, a life force, energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have
“When I was 15, I spent a month working on an archeological dig. I was talking to one of the archeologists one day during our lunch break and he asked those kinds of “getting to know you” questions you ask young people: Do you play sports? What’s your favorite subject? And I told him, no
You don’t have to be good at stuff. Be interesting instead. Read More »
When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside of you as fate. – Carl Jung ALSO seen as C.G. Jung — ‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.’ So, your ONLY job right now is to NOTICE – not fix or change, that will stop you
Use NVC Find Peace (my free online tool for getting to clarity and peace) Questions If this was the first time this had ever happened, would you be reacting this way? What would i have to do to make things worse? (Or, To feel worse?) What if the opposite was true? What if I focused
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Here’s a simple yet effective exercise for challenging or changing negative beliefs. In my experience, affirmations by themselves don’t work – my brain just goes “nup. nup. nup.” This is a different approach, where you kinda “weed out” the bits that are going “nup”. Give it a go. I find it extremely powerful! Find a
Belief Changing Exercise, by Bob Mandel Read More »
Having yet again had it pointed out to me (thanks, Life!) just how completely wrong I’ve been (Jonathan, Sharon Key, blah blah blah), and realising just how much I made my life miserable, I’m now so excited by the possiblity of giving up the concept that I know what’s going on. Imagine: I feel like crap,
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Stop trying so hard!! Just NOTICE what’s happening!!! Before enlightenment, I used to be depressed; after enlightenment, I continue to be depressed. You don’t make a goal out of relaxation and sensitivity. Have you ever heard of people who get tense trying to relax? If one is tense, one simply observes one’s tension. You will
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Many years ago, as a teenager, I despaired of ever finding a way out of the pain I was in. I eventually decided that, if I couldn’t reduce my own pain, then perhaps the next best thing was to reduce the overall amount of pain in the world. Are you lonely? Find someone more lonely,
Think the world isn’t kind enough? Be kind. Think people aren’t honest enough? Be honest. Want more connection with people? Find someone lonely and connect with them. It’s so easy to add to the world … it only seems hard when we’re waiting to receive. Bookmark0
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