Having a painful thought?
Question it – is it true? Can you absolutely know it’s true? etc (Byron Katie – The Work) Question it – what cognitive distortion is at play here? Bookmark0
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there is only one of you in all of time
There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will …
Not personal
You are a function of what the whole universe is doing in the same way that a wave is a function of what the whole ocean is doing – Alan Wilson Watts so stop taking it all so personally!! 🙂 or expecting to understand each movement!! Bookmark0
Unique
“There is vitality, a life force, energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique.  And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost.  The world will not have …
Emotional Processing
Use NVC Find Peace (my free online tool for getting to clarity and peace) Questions If this was the first time this had ever happened, would you be reacting this way? What would i have to do to make things worse? (Or, To feel worse?) What if the opposite was true? What if I focused …
giving up the concept that I know what’s going on
Having yet again had it pointed out to me (thanks, Life!) just how completely wrong I’ve been (Jonathan, Sharon Key, blah blah blah), and realising just how much I made my life miserable, I’m now so excited by the possiblity of giving up the concept that I know what’s going on. Imagine: I feel like crap, …
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Noticing
There are always a million things I could be grateful for. My happiness depends on me noticing them. Bookmark0
Not alone
As I come out of this latest depression, I notice all those others I’m seeing on facebook who’ve been struggling, and I realise I haven’t been alone all this time. We’re all struggling together. Together, we’ve got this. Bookmark0
one step from oblivion
You live one step from oblivion. … Your only security is to embrace insecurity. – Andrew Boyd, Daily Afflictions I find this somehow comforting. All the crazy things I worry about and try to control – whether people are kind, the dog hair on the carpet, the books I haven’t read and should – are …
Play with focus
Try this exercise: focus on something really close; then focus on something far away. Focus on the whole room, and then just the tiniest detail, and back to the whole room. Think about your experience in this very moment … then what it could look like in 5 years … and how it was 5 …
Rewrite your story
I can tell you my life story and make it sound like I’ve had the most amazing and wonderful life ever, or I can tell it so you’d feel terribly sorry for me and all my woes. Same life. Different story. And when i tell myself my life story, I have the same choice. I …
Be with it
Focusing {link} “I’m sensing something in me that feels depressed … and I’m saying hello to it … “ “I’m sensing something in me that doesn’t want to feel depressed, and I’m saying hello to that too … “ Bookmark0
Your brain is lying to you
Look around the room. Notice 5 things. Do it before reading on. What did you notice? The un-vacuumed carpet? The mess on the table? The dog you haven’t taken for a walk today? I don’t know about you, but that’s what I notice, and then I conclude that my life sux right now. And you …
Maybe this is ok
Having negative events happen to you, the study found, decreases your happiness but increases the amount of meaning you have in life. Another study from 2011 confirmed this, finding that people who have meaning in their lives, in the form of a clearly defined purpose, rate their satisfaction with life higher even when they were …
Ask questions
If I’m not finding the answer to a question, like “How can I feel better?”, try the opposite question eg “What would I have to do to feel worse?”, or even “What do I need to do to stay right where I am?”, or “What would I need to have done to get where I …