Stop trying to change it

Stop trying so hard!! Just NOTICE what’s happening!!!

Before enlightenment, I used to be depressed; after enlightenment, I continue to be depressed. You don’t make a goal out of relaxation and sensitivity. Have you ever heard of people who get tense trying to relax? If one is tense, one simply observes one’s tension. You will never understand yourself if you seek to change yourself. The harder you try to change yourself the worse it gets. You are called upon to be aware. Step by step, let whatever happens happen. Real change will come when it is brought about, not by your ego, but by reality. Awareness releases reality to change you.

Anthony de Mello

Something in me worries that that’s being lazy, but it’s really not … fighting habit is hard! To just observe, rather than “fix”, can be quite a challenge. The best thing I ever did was follow advice given by my awesome AA sponsor, Pat. I was having conflict with someone, and the harder I tried to fix it, the worse it got. Pat said to me “You will do nothing. You will not contact them, call them, email them, nothing.” For three days i nearly went insane, it was So. Hard! … and on the 3rd day, voila! Peace. And acceptance.

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