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“Unfucking” whilst the kettle boils

When I'm depressed, I can't think. I stand in the middle of my kitchen in despair, looking at all the ...

Other resources to go through

Free Audio from Russ Harris (ACT) How to Increase Your Joy of Life: 5 Ways - Loretta Breuning(?) Free Mental ...

Good questions to ask myself, or ways to think about a problem or idea

You can call it God, the universe, karma, or whatever you like — the point is to have faith. Keep ...

Having a painful thought?

Question it - is it true? Can you absolutely know it's true? etc (Byron Katie - The Work) Question it ...

Needing to DO something?

Would doing something be helpful right now, or not? ...

there is only one of you in all of time

There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because ...

Things I Love

It took me a long time to realise what "Choose love" actually meant. I thought it was something spiritual, esoteric ...

Pema Chodron

What happens when you begin to feel uneasy, unsettled, queasy? Notice the panic where you instantly grab for something. That ...

Out of my mind

Instead of blaming our discomfort on outer circumstances or on our own weakness, we can choose to stay present and ...

Not personal

You are a function of what the whole universe is doing in the same way that a wave is a ...

Unique

“There is vitality, a life force, energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is ...

You don’t have to be good at stuff. Be interesting instead.

“When I was 15, I spent a month working on an archeological dig. I was talking to one of the ...

Just notice

When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside of you as fate. - Carl Jung ALSO seen as ...

Emotional Processing

Use NVC Find Peace (my free online tool for getting to clarity and peace) Questions If this was the first ...

Belief Changing Exercise, by Bob Mandel

Here's a simple yet effective exercise for challenging or changing negative beliefs. In my experience, affirmations by themselves don't work ...

Complex Systems

Complex systems have emergent properties – that is, the system has properties that are NOT part of the sub-components. (from ...

The 5 Steps to Spiritual Surrender

Here's a great article: The 5 Steps to Spiritual Surrender, by Gabrielle Bernstein (author of The Universe Has Your Back) Highlights: “Your ...

You Will Lose Everything – Jeff Foster

You Will Lose EverythingYou will lose everything. Your money, your power, your fame, your success, perhaps even your memories. Your ...

giving up the concept that I know what’s going on

Having yet again had it pointed out to me (thanks, Life!) just how completely wrong I've been (Jonathan, Sharon Key, ...

Stop trying to change it

Stop trying so hard!! Just NOTICE what's happening!!! Before enlightenment, I used to be depressed; after enlightenment, I continue to ...

Anger is a “collapse into shame”

Heard on podcast: Under anger is always "a collapse into shame" ...

Anger is not just a feeling, it’s tied up with thoughts

There are two kinds of anger. There's the anger in the moment - that's lizard brain, fight or flight, a ...

The important thing is to bring out the awareness of your anger to protect and s

The important thing is to bring out the awareness of your anger to protect and sponsor it. Then the anger ...

Love yourself

I just read Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, by Kamal Ravikant - short eBook, currently $2.99, plus ...

How do you help a grieving friend?

by Megan Devine of Refuge in Grief in this post You can’t heal somebody’s pain by trying to take it away from them ...

Reduce world suck

Many years ago, as a teenager, I despaired of ever finding a way out of the pain I was in ...

Give what you want to receive

Think the world isn't kind enough? Be kind. Think people aren't honest enough? Be honest. Want more connection with people? ...

Guerilla Art

Can't cheer yourself up? Maybe cheer up someone else. Here's some ideas: Find some awesome quotes and use paper-clips or ...

Noticing

There are always a million things I could be grateful for. My happiness depends on me noticing them ...

Just listen!

"Don't just do something, stand there!" - Marshall Rosenberg The biggest mistake people make is thinking they have to DO ...

Grounding in nature

"When we are overwhelmed and can’t hold presence for ourselves, nature offers itself as a grounding force. The deep silence ...

Deep inner listening

"The order of change - We may begin deep listening with the hope that something inside that is angry, scared ...

Not alone

As I come out of this latest depression, I notice all those others I'm seeing on facebook who've been struggling, ...

Choose your support wisely

To find the courage to reach out for help, and then NOT get it, is agonizing. Most people don't know ...

one step from oblivion

You live one step from oblivion. ... Your only security is to embrace insecurity. - Andrew Boyd, Daily Afflictions I ...

Stop Caring

Be honest. When an unexpected situation arises, you stress about whether to help out or not. Maybe it involves a ...

Susan Boyle

Seriously, I can't watch this without grinning and crying ...

Play with focus

Try this exercise: focus on something really close; then focus on something far away. Focus on the whole room, and ...

Focus wheel

An online interactive thing for moving to better thoughts ("vibrations"). Focus wheel process by Abraham-Hicks ... website by Jeff Tretsven Video ...

Rewrite your story

I can tell you my life story and make it sound like I've had the most amazing and wonderful life ...

Catch a thought

It's hard for me to catch a thought when I'm depressed. I'm so identified with them that they don't even ...

How to change negative beliefs

OK, so you've worked out what your faulty thinking is ... but no matter what you do, it still keeps ...

Work out what’s wrong

Sometimes, depression is just depression. Other times, there's something going on. I usually have no idea which is which, and ...

Reach out

Talk with someone before it gets so bad that I can't talk to someone! Well self: make a list of ...

Be with it

Focusing {link} “I’m sensing something in me that feels depressed … and I’m saying hello to it … “ “I’m ...

Find it in your body

Whatever you’re feeling, your brain only knows you’re feeling it because your body is reflecting it – it’s not actually ...

Don’t be fooled

Those who love you are not fooled by the mistakes you have made or the dark images that you hold ...

Love Your Sadness

Sadness brings you eye to eye with your desires. Appreciation is fuel for change. Love gives your sadness the energy ...

Eat good food

Having breakfast, with complex carbs and protein, within an hour of waking up, can make all the difference to my ...

Can’t. Even. (the basics)

There's lots of basic things that can make a difference when I'm feeling awful, that simply don't occur to me ...

Notice the positive

There's plenty of evidence to show how gratitude makes us SO much happier ... but when we're depressed, it's hard ...

Your brain is lying to you

Look around the room. Notice 5 things. Do it before reading on. What did you notice? The un-vacuumed carpet? The ...

Make friends with your body

The best advice I got was from Dain Heer, who said to keep a gratitude journal for my body. At ...

Fuck unconditional love

Fuck unconditional love. You can't do it. It's an impossible goal that makes you violent inside. But you can embrace ...

Maybe this is ok

Having negative events happen to you, the study found, decreases your happiness but increases the amount of meaning you have ...

Make a depression kit

Idea for my sometimes-depressed friends (including myself): We need to make a kit for those times we go down that ...

Set your priorities

1. Brain dump - just get it all out on paper, all the shit you're trying to get done 2 ...

Feeling stuck

Focusing - Something in me wants to do X, and something in me doesn't ...

Good and bad don’t cancel each other out

"The way I see it, every life is a pile of good things and bad things. The good things don't ...

Make an emergency tidying plan

have an emergency tidying plan, for when it's overwhelming you. For me, that might be sweeping everything off my desk ...

Ask questions

If I'm not finding the answer to a question, like "How can I feel better?", try the opposite question eg ...

Get 5% happier

Taken from Good Life Zen website, by Mary Jaksch The psychologist  Nathaniel Branden, who is considered to be the father of the ...

Change your point of view

What does this look like close up? From far away? In 10 years from now? What does this look like ...

Expectations

My daughter was so excited when she found out Simple Plan was playing up the road, then devastated when it ...

Don’t seek. Be.

Don't seek happiness. If you seek it, you won't find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness. ECKHART TOLLE, ...

Don’t Abandon Yourself

When you tell yourself that what you feel isn't valid, that it doesn't matter, you're abandoning yourself. Don't do it. You ...

Happiness Homework – gratitude

You can increase positive feelings by incorporating a few proven practices into your routine. Lyubomirsky suggests you express your gratitude toward someone ...

Where did I fold?

Exercise from the book Prescriptions without Pills If you were angry with someone or something other than yourself, who or what ...

Change your words

Instead of "I'm feeling ... ", try "Something in me is feeling ... " (thank you, Anne Weiser Cornell!) And ...

Life Mission

Our trauma is there to give us our life mission, it's there to show us how people are suffering throughout ...